When someone in a committed relationship cheats on their partner, it can often seem unfathomable to the rest of us when the couple decides to forgive and forget. How can two people overcome infidelity and pretend like nothing happened and everything is totally fine?
A few individuals who remained with their partner after discovering their infidelity took to Whisper to confess just what it’s like to forgive a cheating partner. For some, the forgiveness was real and genuine — for others, however, their reasons for staying were far less black and white.
Here are some realities that people dealt with when coping with a significant other’s cheating ways:
- Forgiving is one thing, but forgetting is another beast entirely.
- Sometimes being alone is scarier than being with a disloyal partner.
- Residual anger is not uncommon when your partner has cheated.
- Sometimes you just don’t want to let the other person out of your life.
- Sometimes the cheater is so remorseful, you can’t help but take them back.
- Sometimes love is just totally and completely blind.
- Taking them back does not ensure their fidelity.
- Forgiving a cheater doesn’t mean you can suddenly develop amnesia.
- For some people, cheating isn’t a deal-breaker.
- The wounds of cheating take a long time to heal.
11. You can forgive the other person, but it doesn’t mean you’ll be able to forgive yourself.
12. Staying together will save the marriage, but not necessarily save the love.
13. Sometimes, however, the love you feel overpowers your partner’s flaws.
14. Sometimes what you’ve been through is stronger than the mistakes you’ve made.
15. Marriage is rarely a guarantee against infidelity.
16. It’s hard to accept that your partner truly does not appreciate you.
17. Bargaining doesn’t make up for cheating.
18. Sometimes infidelity is just a simple bump in the relationship road.
19. Being alone is sometimes scarier than being cheated on.
20. Sometimes, you just have to have faith that the trust will come back.